I used to care so much about things that seem so trivial now. Having my makeup done perfectly, my weight being just right, making sure I got just the right angle for pictures. You know, those things seemed so important once upon a time, but now they seem so unimportant. Since becoming a mom, I have changed and I think that is great.
What I Stopped Caring About After Becoming A Mom
Motherhood has changed me so much, and I could not be more happy. It is the trivial things that I just no longer care about. I wish I would have felt like this before, but it really took becoming a mom to really start to just love myself and not care anymore.
What Other People Think
Before becoming a mom, I used to really care what other people thought about me. Now, I really don’t give it much thought. Now yes, there are still times when I think about it, but for the most part I just don’t care. I know who I am, and I know I am a good mom and that is all that matters. Let people talk, let them think whatever they want because it is probably incorrect anyways.
Having Perfect Makeup
There was once a time in my life where I would not leave the house without makeup on! Now, don’t get me wrong, I still love makeup but I don’t find it to be a necessity anymore. I now look at it as something fun, but too much work to put on just to run to the grocery store. I feel like this goes along with caring what other people think. Now I just care about how I feel and what I think so, makeup is fun for me but no longer a requirement to leave my home.
Obsessing Over Weight
Don’t get me wrong, I am still not 100% the biggest fan of my body. I am a bit overweight, out of shape, and a little flabby but I no longer obsess over it. There was once a time when I would obsess over what I ate or when I worked out, just to make sure I didn’t gain a pound. It was sickening and tiring. Now that I have two kids, my body has changed but so has my mindset. Yes, I want to eat healthy and be active, but I don’t want to be obsessed with it. It is my job to teach my kids to be body positive and a good balance between healthy eating and an ice cream once in a while.
How Clean My House Is
My house is basically a mess 24/7 anymore, and I am okay with that. Now I don’t mean that my house is dirty, so don’t think I live in an episode of Hoarders. What I mean is, there are toys in the living room, probably some dishes in the sink and a mirror with fingerprints on it. There is dog hair on the couch and laundry in the basket, but it no longer bothers me. I used to think my house had to be pristine, especially when people would come over. Since becoming a mom, I no longer care. My kids are happy and playing and making messes, and anyone who has anything to say about my “dirty” house, can just not come over at all. I would rather spend time playing with my kids than stressing about the 4 plates in the sink that need to be washed.
Being the Perfect Mom
When I was pregnant with my first, I was obsessed with learning everything I would so I could be the “perfect mom”. I wanted to just be this amazing mom who never yelled and never got frustrated….then I gave birth. Everything was wrong from jump, I had a C-section, but I was convinced I needed a vaginal birth to give my daughter the best ( yea crazy looking back). All of the advice out there was just too much and I ended up getting even more frustrated because my child wasn’t like everyone else’s. It all finally came together when I stopped trying to be perfect, and just focused on what felt right.
Being In Pictures
Before becoming a mom, I only wanted to be in pictures if I looked just right. Makeup done, hair done, dressed nice. Now I have realized that I was avoiding beautiful opportunities with my kids just because I didn’t want to be in a picture. These kids are going to look back one day and not care how I looked, they will care that I was in the picture. They will care that they have these pictures to look back on and remember when I am long gone.
Becoming a mom has changed me in so many ways. I am stronger, happier, and more determined than ever. It had made me care less about what outsiders think of me, and more about how I am living my life. I realize now that I don’t need to be perfect to be a good mom or a good person, I just need to be myself and live a happy life filled with love and laughter from my two little monsters.
So if you are a mom who is struggling with letting go of perfection, just remember that it is okay. Okay to have a messy home, okay to be bare faced in yesterday’s pajamas, and it is okay to be a little fluffy. Just remember that those kids, they love you no matter what and that is what is important in this short life we live.