If your friend or maybe a family member has just had a new baby, chances are that she is going to need some help at some point. It seems that a lot of people don’t really know what to do to help new moms, especially those without kids of their own. The truth is, there are so many simple things that you can do that will really be a huge help to new moms. These will take some stress off of her while showing her how much she really is appreciated.
Simple Ways To Really Help New Moms
I remember bringing my brand new baby home and being so overjoyed. Then my husband went back to work, and I was left to do it all on my own. I’m not going to lie, the first three months with a baby can be brutal. You are sleep deprived, hungry, you are probably in some sort of physical pain. It isn’t easy, and everyone needs help. Even when I came home with my second, I needed the help. Having two at home brings on a while new set of problems that may arise. So seriously, if you know someone who just had a baby, see how you can help her out. I promise she will appreciate it.
Bring Her Food
One of the best ways to help new moms, is to bring them food. I promise, the last thing a new mom wants to do is cook dinner. So one super simple thing you can do is to make a big pan of food and take it to her so she has some ready meals to heat up. I usually make a large pan of pasta to take to my new mom friends. It is easy, inexpensive, and heats up well. I remember loving when my friends brought food by for me right after I had my kids. It took so much stress off of me because I didn’t have to think about what to make for dinner that night. New moms have enough to deal with without stressing over dinner.
Hold Her Baby
You want to really know how to help new moms? Just hold the baby! See, how simple is that? Offer to hold the baby so mom can get a shower and brush her hair. It will make her feel human again, I promise! Sometimes a new mom just needs a few moments to herself, and that is okay. This is where you can really come through and just snuggle that newborn while she takes a few moments. Maybe you can even let her get a quick nap in while you watch that precious baby for her.
Do Some Cleaning
New moms tend to let things slide and pile up. It is normal, it happens to all (most) of us. I know laundry and dishes were the least of my worries. So go for a visit and do a load of dishes or a load of laundry. I’m not saying that you need to top to bottom deep clean her house, although I know she wouldn’t complain if you wanted to. You can simply just take a few minutes and tidy up for her while she is probably stuck on the couch cluster feeding.
Help With Errands
This can go one of two ways. You can offer to do some errands for her, like grab a pack of diapers she needs while you are at the store, or you can offer to run errands with her. Personally, I liked having someone run my errands with me. As a new mom, sometimes I felt confined to the house, so running errands was actually kind of nice. The thing that made it better though, company. You really don’t even need to do much, just ride along and have some good conversation while grocery shopping. Trust me, sometimes it is nice to have an extra set of hands too, especially if there is an older kids involved.
Offer To Take Big Siblings
If you want to help new moms and their older kids, then you can offer to take the older ones for a little while. This will give the new mom a little bit of a break and allow the older kids to have some fun. Take them to a park for a little while. Let them run around and get that energy out of them before returning them home.
Bring A Gift
I am not talking about some fancy expensive gift, but if you want to help new moms, I promise they love coffee! I loved when one of my visitors showed up with a giant Dunkin Donuts iced coffee. It was something for me, while it was small it meant a lot because it wasn’t for the baby. While I appreciated all of the baby gifts and diapers, really you can never go wrong with diapers. I seriously loved when i got something little for me as a woman, not just a mom.
Call Before Coming
i feel like this should be common courtesy no matter what, but especially for a new mom. I loved the company, I really did but a nice 5 minute warning that you are coming over is greatly appreciated. Look, real talk, as a new mom at home I am probably not wearing a bra, and more likely have no pants on. I promise this is not a sight you want to see when you arrive to my house unexpectedly. A nice heads up with help new moms be at least a little prepared for your visit.
Just Be Present
Being a new mom can start to feel lonely. One of the best things you can do to help new moms, or any mom really, is to just be present. Give a quick call to see how she is doing. Come visit and watch Netflix on the couch for a while. Allow mom to have some adult conversation and socialization that she is craving! I promise, this is the biggest and best thing that you can do. It costs no money, only your time and mom will appreciate it with all of her heart.
Being a new mom can be rough. We all need help sometimes, and it is wonderful to have friends who are willing to go out of their way to do so. It doesn’t take much, just a little time and effort. While these tips are great to help new moms, they are also relevant for any stay at home mom. We get lonely, we want a break sometimes so give us a call or come by and hang out.
While these ideas were all derived from my personal experiences, I would love to hear the different ways you like to help new moms.