Having been pregnant twice, I have noticed that for some reason people think they can lose their filter when speaking to a pregnant woman. It is like someone flipped a switch, and people say whatever they are thinking. Some of these comments can be slightly humerus, but most of them are annoying or even flat our rude! I have compiled to top _ things that people should just not say to a pregnant woman. I promise, she doesn’t think it is funny and she doesn’t want to hear it!
10 Things NOT To Say To A Pregnant Woman
1 You are so tiny, are you sure you are pregnant?
Yes, I am sure I am pregnant. There is no reason for me to lie about it, this isn’t an episode if Snapped. I promise I am eating and feeding my growing baby. Don’t believe me? Just wait a few months and I’m sure you will have something else to say.
2 Wow, you are huge! Are you sure it isn’t twins?
Well thank you for making me feel like even more of a beached whale. Yes, I know my stomach has grown to where it looks like I am smuggling a giant watermelon, but I promise there is only one little human growing in there.
3 You are never going to sleep again.
Well, I am not really sleeping much now thanks to the feet in my ribs and the punches to my bladder, but thank you for informing me of this. I actually had no idea that I would be up late at night, lacking sleep, and surviving on double shot espressos.
4 You are naming him/her what?
Look, my husband and I decided on the name. We love it and that is what matters. Really, your opinion has no bearing on what I will be naming my spawn. Unless I decided to name my child something completely off the wall, please keep your judgmental opinions to yourself.
5 This is baby number (insert more than 1), why are you having a shower?
OK, look here. We believe that every baby is to be celebrated, whether is is number one or number 7. My baby shower isn’t a grab for gifts, it is a time to celebrate my impending arrival.
6 Labor was terrible, your lady bits will never be the same.
Well, I wasn’t expecting sunshine and rainbows. Every woman knows that labor isn’t a walk in the park, but there is no need to talk about your horror stories. If I want to know what labor is really like, I can gladly turn to google!
7 Maybe you will have a C-section, they are so much easier.
My body, my birth, so thank you very much! Secondly, no C-sections are not easier by any means, different but not easier!
8 Oh a VBAC? Isn’t that dangerous?
Honestly, no it isn’t any more dangerous than any other birthing method. It is no more dangerous to VBAC than to repeat a major surgery where they will have to cut into scar tissue. Please, do some research before jumping to conclusions.
9 Does this one have the same father as your oldest?
Wow prying much? No pregnant woman wants to feel judged for their choices. It doesn’t matter if they have the same father or not and unless you are the father it is really none of your business.
10 Are you sure you are ready for a baby?
Well, it is a little late for that now isn’t it? Please, don’t go around telling pregnant women that they shouldn’t be pregnant. No matter their situation, it isn’t something they want to hear. If you aren’t raising it, then your opinion is invalid.
Look, a pregnant woman is hormonal and sometimes cranky, and they don’t want to hear your negativity. You wouldn’t comment on a woman’s size when she isn’t pregnant, so why do it now? It is out of respect that you please refrain from the aforementioned conversation topics.
Now I want to know, what was the strangest or most rude thing that YOU were asked or told when you were pregnant?